If you’re on any form of social media, it’s likely that you’ve seen the 10 year challenge floating around. The challenge seems to be the highlight of our social feeds at the moment. Whether you’re showing one of the most embarrassing pictures of yourself from 10 years ago or reminiscing on how good you looked, it’s definitely an interesting topic.
In 2009, I was eleven years old. I was just starting to go through puberty and it was around this time I also started to feel insecure about my appearance. You can read more about that in a post I published called My Experience Growing up Black in a White Area.
Since then, I’ve grown a lot and I’ve learnt a lot more. If I could travel back in time, here are some of the things I would tell my eleven year old self.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others.
When I was younger, I often compared myself to my peers. I looked a lot different from the other kids in my school and it’s something that really started to affect me. Comparing myself to everyone else is one of the things that seriously knocked my confidence as a child and I really wish I hadn’t done.
When you’re eleven years old, your appearance should be the last thing you’re worrying about. I wish I had learned to embrace the features that made me stand out rather than resenting them.
Some Things Aren’t as Important as They Seem.
When you’re young, the smallest things are going to seem like the end of the world. But think about it; is that argument you had with your best friend really going to matter in a week or so? Does it really matter if there are a few girls in your year that you don’t get on with? Falling out with friends or not being liked by everybody isn’t the end of the world. It’s not worth stressing and fretting over.
Stop Wishing Your Childhood Away.
Every kid wishes they were older, right? We’ve all been there. Someday, you will reach that age you’ve always wanted to be and you’ll realise it’s not as great as you imagined it to be. Rather than spending your childhood wishing you could finally be eighteen or even twenty, enjoy the age you’re at because you’ll never be able to go back in time and experience that again.
These are just a few of the things I would tell my younger self. What would you tell yourself if you could travel back to 2009?